What you project as your image has its roots in what you’re thinking right now. Who do you believe yourself to be?
What do you feel are the boundaries of your capabilities?
Let me ask you this: right now, do you feel like you can easily pick up a desirable 25 year old? Do you feel that you’re at a disadvantage because of your age?
Over the years, I’ve heard every excuse in the book, and I can tell you that there are almost as many 25 year old guys who don’t think they can get a 25 year old girl, as there are 45 year olds who think the same way.
It’s not your age; it’s your beliefs about your age that hold you back. As I pointed out earlier, getting older has its benefits.
But what if you were to truly believe that your age isn’t something to hide? What if you were proud of how old you are?
Remember: It’s not your age that’s the issue; it’s HERS that might be the issue.
What if she’s too inexperienced and too naive?
YOU are the right age, but she has to prove to you that she’s wise beyond her years. Or, at the very least, willing to learn from you.
For some guys, believing this will take some work. Changing beliefs isn’t the easiest thing in the world, especially if there are a whole bunch of other beliefs tangled up in them.
With patience and determination, however, you can start to believe that you have an advantage over younger men.
If you believe in yourself, possibilities open up.
The major factor here is confidence and self-assuredness. I mean this in several ways. Not only does it mean that you’ve got self-esteem and believe in your own self-worth, but you’re also fearless and will go after whatever it is that you want.
That means you don’t think twice about approaching a 20 or 30-something woman. Project the sense that a man of your stature and confidence has gotten with younger women before; this should look easy.
You must exude the feeling that you’ve done this before, and being with a younger woman is nothing out of the ordinary. If you can truly grasp that and make it part of your belief system, then you will project it to her.
Then, she won’t pay attention to the age gap. Being with a younger woman has to seem par for the course, but you still want her to feel special. You’re not going after her because you need a younger woman.
You’re interested in her because she seems interesting as a person. You just don’t want her to feel that her age is a big deal to you. This kind of confidence comes from experience. It comes from making a concerted effort to be comfortable in that kind of situation.
If you’re comfortable with women around your age, start frequenting places with a slightly younger age bracket (coffee shops, for example), and start interacting slightly outside of your comfort zone.
Work your way slowly, over the course of a few months, to the age group you want. If you’re 40, don’t jump into a 20 year old’s world without experiencing some 30 year old and mid-late 20s women first. Your mind and nervous system prefers gradual change, and it’s best to approach it that way if you want to acquire a new set of permanent beliefs.